New Review!!! Raising Real Men!

Raising Real Men:  Surviving, Teaching, and Appreciating Boys

by Hal and Melanie Young

Retail Price: $15

I came across this book one day, I don't even remember how, but I just HAD to have a copy.  So I asked for a review copy and was fortunate to receive one.  (Initially they told me it was only for "big time" bloggers.  Well, I hardly qualify for that, but I also told them I have SIX boys, so they gave in!  LOL)

Anyway, the Young family is a lot like a certain other family I know with six boys, and two girls.  Namely mine!  (Actually I see myself as the mother of 14 because, in my mind, boys count double!  LOL  Well, mine do anyway.)  If you have even one boy, you know they can be a handful.  Sure, there are some quiet, studious, thoughtful boys, but they tend to be the exception, don't they? 

To be fair, two of mine are also fairly quiet, but they still like to do wild stuff like ollie off the porch.  This basically means you run out the front door, jump onto a skateboard, ride off the porch, land back on the board on the sidewalk, and keep on going.  (Before you freak out and call Social Services, this is my 18 year old doing this.  And, no, I did NOT know about it until I saw the picture!)

Well, anyway, raising boys is kinda LIKE doing an ollie off the porch.  You gotta start off running, take a leap, and then keep on going even after you've safely landed, only to do it all over again.  That's what it feels like anyway.  Some days I don't land on the board, some days I'm afraid to take that leap, and some days I can't even get up and running!  But somehow I still manage to keep on going.

This is one of those books I could have written myself.  I agree with just about everything in it.  The Youngs are very balanced people.  They don't seem to take one extreme side of any issue.  Take gun play, for example.  They don't outlaw it in their homes, yet they have made very specific rules about how the boys are to play.  Rules like "no shooting other people" teach them not only gun safety, but also the spiritual lesson about "avoiding the appearance of evil."

The Youngs also discuss many other areas of "controversy," such as homeschooling, courtship, and discipline.  But no matter what the topic, they keep in mind that boys are simply men who haven't grown up.  (I know a few of those in their 40s!)  There is a tendency in our culture to make boys into sort of a boy/girl hybrid.  They are told to sit all "nicey, nicey," and are drugged when they don't.  (Yes, some kids really do have ADHD, but many who don't, I truly believe, are drugged just to make life easier for their parents and teachers.  And to say the thought of drugging my own boys has not crossed my mind, would be a lie!)

The book is laid out so that the first half attempts to explain male behavior.  I say attempts only because, while they do an excellent job explaining all about boys and their ways, us women folk will never quite understand them completely.  I imagine there are times when Melanie is still left scratching her head at some of the things her boys do.  (And dare I say at some of the things Hal does?  LOL)  Okay, to be fair, I'm sure Hal and the boys sometimes scratch their heads at some of the things Melanie and the girls do! :)

The second half of the book basically gives instruction on how to raise these wild, untamed creatures of the male species.  From what they share about their older boys, they have done a fantastic job!  (Would YOU send your 17 year old off to China as a tour guide?  You'd have to be pretty confident in the young man's maturity level, would you not?)

I don't want to tell you too much and give the whole book away, but I do want to tell you about one piece of advice that I have taken to heart.  Let the YOUNGEST child who is able do the job.  The absolute biggest mistake we've made is to rely on our two oldest boys to do most of the work.  Once they were trained it was hard to let the third and fourth take over as it meant re-training.  Who wants to do that?  Well, YOU do if you have more than one or two, or you will find that the others tend to get lazy and even resentful when you DO ask them to do something.  That's how it is around here anyway.  So I have been really on the younger kids to pull their weight around here.  When a job is to be done I now consider the youngest first.  Absolutely great advice.

I really enjoyed the book.  The family reminds me so much of my own, except somehow they seem to have pulled it off so much better than we do!  If you have a boy, I would highly recommend this book.  I could write so much more, but right now I have to go ollie off the porch! 

****************************************************
Check out the Raising Real Men Facebook page here.

Find out how to get your own copy here.

Check out the Table of Contents. Sample Chapter: Racing to Win

ISBN: 978-0-9841443-0-3
256 pages. 6×9 trade paperback.

Review of a The Woodcarver and a Chance to Score a Complimentary Copy!

Ever watch Cheers? Cliff Clavin is always spouting out random, useless trivia.  Wouldn't it be cool to have seen him share about the most important thing ever?  By that I'm talking about following Jesus.  Well, John Ratzenberger, who played Cliff Clavin, does just that in this great new movie, The Woodcarver.  


My family and I recently watched this movie as I got a complimentary copy from propeller so I could write up this review.  Keep reading to find out how you, too, can win a complimentary copy of this movie.  

About the Movie:

Matthew Stevenson is a troubled kid from a broken home. When he vandalizes the local church to get back at his parents, Matthew has to repair the damage to the church to avoid criminal charges. While working at the church, he meets Ernest (John Ratzenberger), an accomplished wood carver who created the intricate woodwork decoration that Matthew destroyed. Ernest has become something of a hermit, but reluctantly comes out of reclusion to help repair the church. Now Ernest and Matthew must work together to preserve the church's beautiful antiquity, and along the way, they also manage to restore their faith in God and in life.

My Thoughts:

We all loved this movie.  I especially loved John Ratzenberger's portrayal of Ernest, the woodcarver.  I think he had the most well-developed character in the whole film.  I wish he lived in my neighborhood.  I could think of a few of my own kids who'd I'd like him to befriend!  LOL  What I loved about the movie is that it is a good story, with a great message, but it doesn't come across as preachy.  Some Christian movies just seem so contrived.  (Though I have to say, they are getting better.)  I think having a well known face, and voice, makes it more marketable to a wider audience.  (So here's some Cliff Clavin-like trivia for you:  John Ratzenberger voices a character in every Pixar film ever made!)

I didn't find myself as endeared to the rest of the characters as I did to Earnest, but I could understand where they were coming from.  Today's society has really messed up family life!  We could make life a lot simpler if we all just learned to ask ourselves this simple question, What would Jesus do? As three people, all pretty much absorbed in their won selfish desires learn to ask this question, life takes a turn for the better.  Even Earnest learns a few things.  I highly recommend this movie!

Now for the giveaway rules.   Please read them CAREFULLY as I don't seem to be explaining them well enough.  LOL  

Leave a comment.  Tell me your favorite Christian movie to get one entry.  

Want more entries?  Here are five more ways you can enter, for a total of six ways to enter! :)

Take my poll in the sidebar, and leave AN ADDITIONAL comment HERE ON THIS POST letting me know you did. (If you've already taken the poll, just let me know in a comment, and I will still count it as an additional entry.)

Follow me on facebook, and leave AN ADDITIONAL comment HERE ON THIS POST. (If you already follow, just leave an additional comment HERE ON THIS POST to let me know.)

Follow me on Twitter, and leave AN ADDITIONAL comment HERE ON THIS POST. (If you already follow, just leave an additional comment HERE ON THIS POST to let me know.)

Follow me with Google Friend Connect or Linky Followers, and leave AN ADDITIONAL comment HERE ON THIS POST. (If you already follow, just leave an additional comment HERE ON THIS POST to let me know.)

Subscribe to my blog via Feedburner, and leave AN ADDITIONAL comment HERE ON THIS POST. (See sidebar. If you already subscribe, just leave an additional comment HERE ON THIS POST to let me know.)

You must be 13 years old or older to enter and not live in The Crazy House. :) Please leave your e-mail address or some other way I can contact you if you win, or I'll have to draw another winner. MAKE SURE YOU LEAVE A SEPARATE COMMENT FOR EACH ADDITIONAL ENTRY for up to six entries per person. More than one person may enter per household if they are at least 13 years old. That's about it. :)

The contest will close at 11:59 p.m. Eastern time on Sunday, April 1, 2012. The winner will be chosen on Monday, April 2, 2012 or sometime soon after.

 “Disclosure of Material Connection: I received one or more of the products or services mentioned above for free in the hope that I would mention it on my blog. Regardless, I only recommend products or services I use personally and believe will be good for my readers. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

Happy movie watching!!!

New Review and Contest!!! Cooper and Me and the Military

I recently received the latest Cooper and Me book, Cooper and Me and the Military.  This is the third book I have read in the series.  You can read my original review of Cooper and Me here, or my review of Cooper and Me and the Winter Adventure here.   

So far I have enjoyed these books, and so have my children.  They have been thrilled to read them and keep asking which one they are getting next!  I love that the books are actually written and illustrated by a child, Alexa Peters, who was only 11 years old when the first book was written in 2010.  My only concern about this book is that it is about two children whose mother and father both serve in the military.  I just found it sad that the children had to live with their grandparents while both parents were deployed.  It does allow children to see what a sacrifice must be made to keep our country safe. 

The story is all about a dog named Trooper who is friends with Cooper.  Trooper is adopted by Gracie and Joe and their parents, who are serving in the military.  According to the publisher, each Cooper and Me story teaches an important Life Lesson and features interactive materials at the back of the book to drive the message home.  Included are activities that help children name and process their own feelings about what they've read.  In this book, the children learn that their parents love them, even though they are far from home.  

You can learn more about this book and the Cooper and Me series by clicking on these links:

Website: http://www.cooperandme.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Cooper-and-Me-Inc/214695101924101

Twitter: https://twitter.com/#!/cooper_and_me

Now for the contest rules!  Please read them CAREFULLY as I don't seem to be explaining them well enough.  LOL  

Leave a comment.  Tell me who you'd like to honor for serving in the military.  Want more entries?  Here are five more ways you can enter, for a total of six ways to enter! :)

Take my poll in the sidebar, and leave AN ADDITIONAL comment HERE ON THIS POST letting me know you did. (If you've already taken the poll, just let me know in a comment, and I will still count it as an additional entry.)

Follow me on facebook, and leave AN ADDITIONAL comment HERE ON THIS POST. (If you already follow, just leave an additional comment HERE ON THIS POST to let me know.)

Follow me on Twitter, and leave AN ADDITIONAL comment HERE ON THIS POST. (If you already follow, just leave an additional comment HERE ON THIS POST to let me know.)

Follow me with Google Friend Connect,and leave AN ADDITIONAL comment HERE ON THIS POST. (If you already follow, just leave an additional comment HERE ON THIS POST to let me know.)

Subscribe to my blog via Feedburner, and leave AN ADDITIONAL comment HERE ON THIS POST. . (See sidebar. If you already subscribe, just leave an additional comment HERE ON THIS POST to let me know.)

The rules: You must be 13 years old or older to enter and not live in The Crazy House. :) Please leave your e-mail address or some other way I can contact you if you win, or I'll have to draw another winner. MAKE SURE YOU LEAVE A SEPARATE COMMENT FOR EACH ADDITIONAL ENTRY for up to six entries per person. More than one person may enter per household if they are at least 13 years old. That's about it. :)

The contest will close at 11:59 p.m. Eastern time on Sunday, March 4, 2012. The winner will be chosen on Monday, March 5, 2012 or sometime soon after.

 “Disclosure of Material Connection: I received one or more of the products or services mentioned above for free in the hope that I would mention it on my blog. Regardless, I only recommend products or services I use personally and believe will be good for my readers. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

Hi Tech Kids!

Psst... Please take my poll in the sidebar!  Thanks!!!  :)

The other day my youngest son, Baber, who is eight, was on the laptop when he still had school and chores to do, so I took it away from him.  The next thing I knew I found him sitting on the stairs with his portable DVD player!  I confiscated that, and told him to get going on his list.  He reluctantly gave it to me, and I took it and hid it.

I started going about my business when I saw him walking around, calculator in hand.  Really?  Is the kid that desperate to manipulate images on a screen?  So then I had to take away the calculator!  I finally realized that if I wasn't working along side him every step of the way he wasn't going to do anything he was supposed to be doing.  It was either that or hide all the digital watches!

New Review, Contest, and a Special Offer! Cooper and Me and the Winter Adventure :)

I recently reviewed a sweet little book called Cooper and Me.  I was especially impressed because it was co-written by an 11 year-old, Alexa Peters, along with her mother, Monique.  Alexa even drew the illustrations!  I received the book free as part of the propeller blogger program.  So, when propeller contacted me to review another Cooper and Me book, I was happy to do so!  


In Cooper and Me and the Winter Adventure, Cooper and his friend Bella go off on an adventure in the snow, and find themselves lost.  Cooper and Bella must then howl until another friend, Trooper, hears them and barks back.  The two lost dogs follow the sound of Trooper's barking to get back home.  This book would be a great way to teach your child what to do if he or she was ever lost.  One of my daughters wandered off once, and I was so glad she knew what to do.  The book retails for $12.99.  

Special Note:  $1 of every Winter Adventure book sold will go to advance research and treatment of pancreatic cancer, via the Lustgarten Foundation. (http://www.lustgarten.org/)

Also, our friends at Cooper and Me will be offering an EXCLUSIVE DEAL FOR MY BLOG READERS:  Make any purchase of $25 or more at CooperandMe.com and get FREE SHIPPING now through December 15. 

YOU MUST USE THIS CODE @ Check Out:  COOPERBLOG

For more information check out these links:

Website: http://www.cooperandme.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Cooper-and-Me-Inc/214695101924101

Twitter: https://twitter.com/#!/cooper_and_me

The contest:

Now for the giveaway! Would you like to get a free copy of Cooper and Me and the Winter Adventure? If so, just leave me a comment telling me who you'd read it with. ;) You can leave a comment either here or on my facebook page. For additional entries: 

Follow me on facebook.  (If you already follow, just leave a separate comment to let me know.)

Follow me on Twitter.  (If you already follow, just leave a separate comment to let me know.)

Follow me with Google Friend Connect. (See sidebar. If you already follow, just leave a separate comment to let me know.)

Subscribe to my blog via Feedburner. (See sidebar. If you already subscribe, just leave a separate comment to let me know.)

The rules: You must be 13 years old or older to enter and not live in my house. :) Please leave your e-mail address or some other way I can contact you if you win. MAKE SURE YOU LEAVE A SEPARATE COMMENT FOR EACH ADDITIONAL ENTRY for up to five entries per person. More than one person may enter per household if they are at least 13 years old. That's about it. :)

The contest will close at 11:59 p.m. Eastern time on Friday, December 23, 2011. The winner will be chosen on Monday, December 26, 2011 or sometime soon after.
 
"Disclosure of Material Connection: I received one or more of the products or servicesmentioned above for free in the hope that I would mention it on my blog. Regardless, I only recommend products or services I use personally and believe will be good for my readers.  I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR, Part 255:  
"Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising."

Total Transformation Review (Part 2)

Okay, I know a lot of people have been very anxious to hear all about my experiences with the Total Transformation program.  Well, I am still very much working through the program.  Initially, my hope was to listen to one CD a week, implement what I learned, and blog about it.  However, it's not that simple.  I have been listening to the CDs, and they are so full of information that I cannot possibly digest everything just listening to the CD once.  Then there are the workbook pages to fill out, then there is LIFE!  LOL

Let me start out by saying that I had heard about this program for years before I got a chance to try it.  I always wondered if it really was as great as it sounded.  I even got online and tried to find reviews of it, but wasn't having much luck.  I found a few positive ones, but they seemed to be affiliates.  I found one negative review, one, and it was by a guy who never even had used or even seen it!  I was just dying to know what it was all about, but it seemed to be the world's best kept secret.  (Which isn't actually true, you can even get a free parenting newsletter.)

I really honestly thought that Total Transformation was just some money making scam.  Then I got the program and watched the DVD.  I might have heard it before, but I didn't remember that the creator of the program, James Lehman, was actually a very troubled youth.  He was a heroin addict and even served prison time.  So, I guess this guy knew something about troubled kids.  (Sadly, I also learned that James Lehman passed away last year.)  He also worked for years as a Childhood Behavioral Therapist.

I liked James Lehman and the program right away.  Yes, he does take more of a tough love approach than I am used to using.  I am not tough.  At all.  I am a wimp.  Or was.  LOL  I'm learning.  Here's just one thing I've learned.  I'm a negotiator.  Here's a real life example:  I had to run a few errands and told my youngest son, Baber, that if he had his whole list done when I got home he could have a reward.  (I actually forgot now what it was.  LOL)  Anyway, I got home and it wasn't done.  Old Me would have renegotiated and told him he could still get the reward if he did it in "x" amount of minutes.  New Me simply told him that he didn't do what I'd asked and wouldn't get the reward. Period.  He tried to renegotiate, but I held my ground.  If I keep it up, he'll soon know that I say what I mean, and mean what I say.  Simple, perhaps obvious, but I was always negotiating and renegotiating.  Yes, things were getting done, but not when they needed to be done, and every one of my kids seems to have a future in law.

Well, I'm getting ahead of myself, so let me back up a bit.  I've watched the DVD, listened to the first three CDs, did the workbook pages that go along with the first three CDs, and listened to the Bonus CD.  The program starts out by explaining the "whys" of your child's behavior.  Then the program goes on to explain how different parents respond to bad behavior.  I pretty much knew where I was having trouble, I knew I was a wimp. Then, and here's the part I like, James Lehman explains exactly how to change wrong parenting patterns which will, in turn, change wrong patterns of behavior in children.  That's the plan, anyway!  So far I have taken so few baby steps, I can't say I've had a total transformation with any of them, but I do think I am on my way.

I will share just one more thing I learned.  I have always tried to get inside my kids' heads when they did something wrong, especially if it was something, well, shall we say, uh, stupid?  Yeah, my kids do some things that are really just kinda dumb, and I am left scratching my head.  So, I ask them why.  Why? Why? Why do they do these things?  Well, James Lehman doesn't recommend asking why.  When you ask a child "why" when he does something that is clearly wrong, and I mean when you know that your child knows it was wrong before he even did it, you are actually implying that there is a reasonable explanation.  Otherwise, why would you ask for one?  He explains it much better than I do, but it made total sense to me.  Of course!  There is no reason "why" they did what they did other than they chose to break the rule.  That is all you need to know.  If you are doing the program you will have a pre-determined consequence for breaking the rule.  If you follow through with that you won't need to ask why, because if you are consistent, the behavior will end!  (Okay, not making a promise here, but stating a general principle.)

I do have to share one more thing I learned.  It was kinda eye-opening.  Since listening to this program, I have had a few incidences with the kids.  I've actually figured out that a couple of my more difficult children (Did I just say that? LOL) naturally have been using these very techniques on me!  Here's one of them: When someone starts to argue, walk away. My son did this very thing the other day.  I was upset about something and started to lecture him.  He turned and walked out of the room and into the basement.  What?! You know, it worked!  The discussion stopped.  I totally felt defeated, and though I don't know for sure, I can only guess that he felt quite in control of the situation.  Now, just to be the one to walk away first.  LOL

My youngest son likes to walk away too, but not until making his demand.  He says it like he means it, walks away, and just expects it to happen.  The other day I was getting ready to give him peas with dinner.  He looked at me and calmly and firmly told me, "I don't want peas."  Then he walked away with authority.  I actually had to talk myself into making him eat the peas because he spoke with such determination and conviction.  Then, when I gave him his dinner he said very calmly, and again, with determination and conviction, "I said I don't want peas."  Again, I had to take a deep breath and talk myself into giving him the peas!  (I tend to avoid confrontations, can you tell?)  In both of these cases, I kinda had to chuckle to myself.  I mean, maybe I don't need James Lehman; I could learn from these kids!

Anyway, like I said earlier, I am not done with the program.  I am really just still taking it all in.  I have realized that the name of the program refers a whole lot more to me, than to my children.  I do have a lot of bad parenting habits that I need to break, or I could say, that need a Total Transformation.  It won't happen overnight.  It's not magic.  I can't guarantee yet that it works, but I am sure liking what I see so far.  The few things I have been able to implement have seemed to work.  I'm pretty much already a believer.

Is the program really anything new?  No, I imagine that most of this info is really just common sense that could be gleaned elsewhere.  Why buy it then?  Well, it's just so well put together.  All the information is organized for you to work through, step by step.  There are the CDs, the workbook exercises, and there's even additional support you can get with the free newsletter and the parenting hotline.  (Once you get the program you can, for an additional fee, get access to a parenting hotline that you can call to get help in any situation.)

Are you interested yet?  Here is a link to the program:

Child Discipline Methods – http://www.thetotaltransformation.com/

Here's where you can get the free parenting newsletter:

http://www.empoweringparents.com/parenting-newsletter.php

I needed to get this review up today because I was asked to have it done by December 1.  However, I will be continuing to use the program and, God willing, will continue to blog about my progress!!!  I hope you'll stay tuned!

"Disclosure of Material Connection: I received one or more of the products or services mentioned above for free in the hope that I would mention it on my blog. Regardless, I only recommend products or services I use personally and believe will be good for my readers. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR, Part 255: "Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising."


Happy Parenting!!!

New Review and Giveaway! Cooper and Me!

Contest Closed.

A while back I got a cute little book called Cooper and Me from the good folks at propeller.  I read it, put it aside, then forgot about it!  LOL  So, here I am sheepishly posting the "better late than never" review.  ;) 

This is a neat book because the illustrator and co-author is a child!  Check out the press release, and then read my thoughts.  :)

About Cooper and Me:


Cooper and Me was illustrated by 11-year-old Alexa Peters and co-written with her mother, Monique Peters. The idea was inspired by Alexa's own experiences on her first day of school. A talented young artist and writer, Alexa wanted to give back to others in a meaningful way through her art. Starting at a very young age, Alexa created illustrated stories about her daily experiences, and from the pages of her sketchbooks came the idea for her first book, Cooper and Me.

Through rhythmic verses, Cooper and Me tells the story of a young girl who is nervous as her first day of school approaches. She is frightened about leaving home and doesn't want to go without her best friend, her dog Cooper. Fortunately her mother finds the perfect solution to help the little girl overcome her fears – a small replica of her beloved pet she can take to school with her. In Cooper and Me, the story of a child’s fears about starting school has evolved into a timeless tale about overcoming separation anxiety and trying new things – basic emotions all people experience throughout their lives – but this time, written by a child, for children.

The story behind Cooper and Me also offers an inspiring example of families working together to help others. In addition to helping young children gain emotional resilience and confidence through their books, Alexa and mom Monique wanted to go beyond that to help less fortunate kids. Their search for an organization to which they could donate a portion of the proceeds from the Cooper and Me book led to a charitable alliance with the Happy Hearts Fund, founded and run by Petra Nemcova, the supermodel who was directly affected by the tsunami in Thailand. Happy Hearts improves children’s lives through education and sustainable programs in natural disaster areas.

My thoughts:

I found this to be an adorable book.  Admittedly, I am a homeschool mom, so the whole "first day of school" aspect of the book didn't apply to my family.  I mean, we school at home and our dog is right here with us!  LOL  However, we still have had first days at Sunday school, co-op, etc.  So, while I know most of my readers are also homeschoolers, I can still recommend this book.  I mean, what a cool thing that it's written by a little girl!  Even if you don't send your child to kindergarten, you can still enjoy the book and talk to your child about living out your dreams.  Maybe your child wants to write or illustrate books.  Maybe they have other dreams.  Maybe they have no dreams, and this will inspire them to do something more exciting than reach the next level of the latest video game.  LOL

Wanna find out more?  Check out the link below.

Website: http://http://www.cooperandme.com/

And now for the giveaway!  Would you like to win your own copy of Cooper and Me?  If so, just leave me a comment telling me who you'd read it to.  ;)  You can leave a comment either here or on my facebook page.  For additional entries: 

Follow me on facebook.

Follow me on Twitter.

Follow me with Google Friend Connect. (See sidebar.)

Subscribe to my blog via Feedburner. (See sidebar.)

The rules: You must be 13 years old or older to enter and not live in my house. :) Please leave your e-mail address or some other way I can contact you if you win. MAKE SURE YOU LEAVE A SEPARATE COMMENT FOR EACH ADDITIONAL ENTRY for up to five entries per person. More than one person may enter per household if they are at least 13 years old. That's about it. :)

The contest will close at 11:59 p.m. on Sunday, December 4, 2011. The winner will be chosen on Monday, December 5, 2011 or sometime soon after.

"Disclosure of Material Connection: I received one or more of the products or services mentioned above for free in the hope that I would mention it on my blog. Regardless, I only recommend products or services I use personally and believe will be good for my readers. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR, Part 255:  "Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising."



Happy Reading!!! :)

New Review and Contest! What is He Thinking?? by: Rebecca St. James

Contest Closed

I recently finished reading What is He Thinking?? by Rebecca St. James, a book she wrote about dating, love, and marriage that I recieved free as part of the propeller blogger program.  Check out the press release, then read my thoughts.

About What Is He Thinking??

In What is He Thinking??, Rebecca interviews a range of men from high-profile types to the guys next door, men that every woman can relate to. Although the interviews focus on single guys ages 20-35, Rebecca also includes words of wisdom from older mentors she respects who have been successfully married for years, people like her dad, life coach, and pastor.

The men share their thoughts on topics like how women can respect themselves and the men in their lives, modesty, purity, taking it slow, friendship, letting guys lead, and more. This book gives them the floor to say what they would really like women to know.

The men respond candidly to questions such as:

•What is the most attractive quality to you in a woman?

•Is modesty truly attractive?

•Is neediness a turn-off?

•What do you find beautiful?

•How can we be dependent on God for our identity, not on you?

•How can we help you with boundaries physically?

Rebecca also discusses her own dating life, speaking openly about the single life, her struggle with loneliness, and her hope for the future. She challenges women to see the men in their lives as brothers in Christ and to trust God with their dating lives.

About Rebecca

Australian born Rebecca St. James is a Grammy Award winner and a multiple Dove Award recipient, with international success that has driven her record sales into the millions. In January 2008, she was named Favorite Female Artist in Contemporary Christian Music by readers of CCM Magazine for the seventh consecutive year. Rebecca also won Best Female Artist of 2007 from Christianitytoday.com-her fifth consecutive year to be given this honor. She's been involved in several film productions and voiced the character of Hope the Angel in VeggieTales' bestselling DVD production The Easter Carol. You can read more about Rebecca on her official Web site: www.rsjames.com or on her Facebook page, www.facebook.com/RSJames.

My thoughts:

I had sort of mixed feelings about this book, mostly because it wasn't quite what I was expecting.  I thought it was going to be a "the results of an anonymous survery" kind of book.  Instead, the book is from the perspectives of only Godly Christian men.  While this is good, I think sometimes girls need to know what other guys think, because so often I see them dating non-Chrisitians not realizing how differently they think about just about everything.  Also, and I hate to say it, a lot of the Christian guys often don't have the purest intentions when dating either.  This is just reality folks.  So, while she interviewed some really great guys, I think they were not really an accurate representation of guys everywhere.  That being said, there were some great guys, and reading this would really help a girl know what to look for.

There is much to love about this book.  For one, she doesn't even discuss teen dating.  This book is not about hanging out and having a "bf "so you can post mushy stuff on facebook for all the world to see.  This book is about finding a mate for life.  This is, in my humble opinion, what the purpose of dating should be.  I think the youngest guy she quotes in the book is 18, and hasn't even dated yet.  The rest of the guys are all older. 

I also liked that she did discuss things like boundaries.  Compared to most folk, she is very conservative.  She gives a lot of great advice.  I am a bit more conservative, however, and a few things I thought were not something I would advise.  For example, in one part of the book she talked about a rule that stated that you should never sit on a bed with a guy.  Okay, I'm all for that, but I would advise to stay out of the bedroom completely, and even out of the house if no one else is home. 

So, do I recommend the book?  For just about everyone, yes.  For those who are following a more strict "courtship model," no.  My suggestion is that if you are a parent, you can click on the OpenBook link below to read the first 10% of the book.  If you feel comfortable with that, buy it, finish reading it, then if you feel it represents your family's dating philosophy, by all means buy it and share it with your daughter.  Or, better yet, you could win the book!  Check out how right after these links:

Facebook (Author): http://www.blogger.com/Facebook%20(Author):%20http://www.facebook.com/RSJames

Facebook (Book): http://www.facebook.com/whatishethinkingRSJ

Twitter: http://twitter.com/rebeccastjames

Website: http://rsjames.com/

YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/rsjchannel

Link to HBG website book detail page: http://goo.gl/RTy0O

OpenBook Link: http://goo.gl/BWgEs (preview the first 10% of the book)

Would you like to win this book?  It's easy!  Simply comment on why you would like to win it.  Having trouble with comments here on the blog?  Leave a comment on the Crazy Mom Facebook Page instead.  (I'd love it if you'd do both, but I am only counting one as an entry.)  For up to four additional entries, you can do the following:

Follow me on facebook.

Follow me on Twitter.

Follow me with Google Friend Connect. (See sidebar.)

Subscribe to my blog via Feedburner. (See sidebar.)

The rules:  You must be 13 to enter and not live in my house.  :)  Please leave your e-mail address or some other way I can contact you if you win.  MAKE SURE YOU LEAVE A SEPARATE COMMENT FOR EACH ADDTIONAL ENTRY.  That's about it.  :)

The contest will end at 11:59 p.m. Eastern Time on Sunday, November 27, 2011.  I'll draw the winner Monday, November 28, 2011 or sometime soon after. 

"Disclosure of Material Connection: I received one or more of the products or services mentioned above for free in the hope that I would mention it on my blog. Regardless, I only recommend products or services I use personally and believe will be good for my readers. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR, Part 255: "Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising."

So... I've started the Total Transformation! (Part 1)

I just might be the latest skeptic turned convert!  So far I am liking what I see/hear.  Can't say I've done anything to really utilize the program, but I am learning.  I told a friend at church yesterday that if this program really works like they say it will, I will be out spreading the word like an evangelist.  We shall see! 

I have watched the Jump Start DVD and have listened to most of the first audio CD.  I've also checked out the first lesson in the workbook.  My biggest trouble is that I have to try to "sneak" around to listen to the CDs so that my kids don't catch on to my little secret.  LOL 

The first week is really mostly all about understanding the "why" behind your child's behavior issues.  I know it's supposed to be serious, but I actually have to say I had a few giggles over how well they know my children without having even met them!  They sure have them pegged.  One of my kids seems to have just about every issue they talk about.  I joked to Sane Man that we should pass out a copy of the CD to everyone who meets him.  LOL

I seriously am very pleasantly surprised so far.  I really thought it was a gimmick and wouldn't work.  Now, I still can't say it works, as I haven't implemented it yet, but it is no gimmick.  The program is very well thought out and organized.  And it is readily apparent when you look at it that it's going to take some work on the part of the parent(s).  Honestly, I think if I were the one marketing the program, I would do it differently.  Every time I heard the infomercial it sounded too good to be true, so I always assumed it was.  I think it might have actually been more believable to me had it been more obvious that it wasn't a quick fix, but a tough but workable program that works. 

I'm glad to be doing this for a review because it will keep me more on track with it.  My plan is to try to blog each week after listening to each CD.  I'm hoping to get to the second one today before the kids get up.  It always gets so crazy, busy, and LOUD around here that it's really difficult to find a few moments of peace to actually listen.  Perhaps this will change once I finish the program.  :)

Here is a link to the program:

Child Discipline Methods – http://www.thetotaltransformation.com/

Here's where you can get a free parenting newsletter:

http://www.empoweringparents.com/parenting-newsletter.php

I hope you follow along with my progress as I work through this.  Since I have eight kids (and yes, technically two of them are now "adults" but...) I'm not going to try to focus on all of them.  It would be too overwhelming for me.  My idea is to pretty much focus on one of them and then as I get used to it, my hope is that it will just come naturally to use the ideas with the others.  Again, we shall see. :)

Total Transformation Review: Coming Soon!

We've all heard the informertials, right?  The Total Transformation Program is supposed to take even the most stubborn rebellious child, and turn him or her into an obedient, loving child who is a joy to have around.  Skeptical?  Well, I am.  I mean, a few of my kids can be rather, um, let's just say "not-so-compliant." 

Still, I hear these commercials and wonder.  Would it work for MY child?  Well, guess what?  I am gong to find out!  My little package is on the way and soon will be dropped off by the UPS man on my doorstep.  I cannot wait! I mean, I AM skeptical.  However, there's a part of me that holds out hope.  I honestly don't think I'll have perfect children once I am done with the program.  However, I'm really hoping for a least some improvement. 

I know you are all dying to know, Does this program really work?  Keep tuned, and I'll let ya know!  Now, I tend to be a sporadic poster, but I am hoping to be a bit more regular when posting about this program.  I would suggest that if you don't want to miss any of my reviews that you either subscribe to get my posts via e-mail, or follow my with Google Friend Connect, facebook, or Twitter.  Just check out my sidebar. 

I'll let you know when the package arrives! 

New Review! Game Time: Tackling the Past

I just found out about something I didn't even know was going on.  Apparently, in an effort to bring back wholesome TV to prime-time, Walmart and Proctor and Gamble are sponsoring  what they call Family Movie Nights.  Tonight on NBC at 8:00 (7:00 Central)  they will be showing Game Time:  Tacking the Past.  I have to admit, I was actually amazed that this movie is going to be on TV.  It's all about honor and integrity.  They even show a family (gasp!) praying around the table!  What a breath of fresh air. 

Now, you might ask, how I have seen this movie already.  Well, I'm special of course!  LOL  But seriously, I am now going to be doing reviews for propeller, and in this instance I had access to a special pre-broadcast online viewing.

Since this movie is showing tonight, I want to get the word out quickly, so I'm going to make this brief.  As you might suspect, this movie is about football.  Well, not really, it's about making right decisions, with football as the backdrop.  Now, I'm not a football fan, but I do seem to like football movies.  This movie was no exception.  It's bascially about a guy who has gone pro, but suddenly finds himself back home and with family.  Through a sudden turn of events, he ends up having to make the choice between staying home and continuing a pro career.  To find our more about Game Time:  Tackling the Past, just check out the links below.  :)

Website: http://www.familymovienight.com/game-time-tackling-the-past/#trailer
Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/familymovienight
Youtube: http://www.youtube.com/fmnib
Twitter: http://twitter.com/#!/fmnib

Happy movie watching!!!

New Review!!! Mad Dog Math!

Well, hello there!!!  I'm so glad you stopped by!  :)  I bet you'd like to get my posts delivered right to your inbox, now wouldn't you?  So why not sign up for Feedburner?  Check it out, it's right there in my sidebar!  Thanks!!  :)

About the product/service: As part of the TOS Homeschool Crew I received a free download of Mad Dog Math.  Math Dog Math is a program that is set up to review the basic addition, subtraction, multiplication, and division facts.  The program is set up so that kids move from level to level as they advance through the worksheets.  The first goal is to get the problems done in two minutes.  Utlimately, the goal is to get it done in less than 30 seconds.  A cute little dog Ruff, helps lead the way!

What are the pros of this product? It's great review for kids and the cute little dog just adds to the fun.  The best part is that kids compete against themselves, so they are motivated to learn their facts!




What's not to like? Nothing really. :)  It is a wee bit confusing at first understanding how it works, but that's probably just me.  :)  My kids seemed to get is just fine. 


The Crazy Mom take:  I mostly had Baber doing this program.  He's always begging to get on the computer, so I would bribe him by saying he could get on to do his Mad Dog Math!  He didn't seem to mind (most days) and he enjoyed being able to try to get the problems done quickly.  It's a nice program, and the dog is really cute, so it's one I'd recommend.  :)

Happy problem solving! 



What's the bottom line? One year license $19.99/Two year license $29.99/Perpetual license $39.99

I am going to give Mad Dog Math 4 out of 5 smileys!!!

Check it out! http://www.maddogmath.com/about.html



See what my fellow TOS Crew members have to say @ http://homeschoolblogger.com/homeschoolcrew/783984/




*The Smiley System:

I can't really recommend this product.

I doubt this product would be helpful to many people.

This is a good product, but isn't right for everyone.

Most homeschool moms will find this useful.

This is great, and I would recommend it to anyone!!!


Disclaimer!!! I reviewed this product because I am a member of The Old Schoolhouse Homeschool Crew. I was given the product by the vendor to use and evaluate in my home so that I might share my insights with others. Other than receiving the product, which I kinda have to to be able to assess the product, I am not compensated for my reviews in any way. I am in no way obligated to give a positive review. I do try to point out negatives when I see them, though I am admittedly a pretty easy going gal! What you read are my honest assessments of the products I receive.

As with all products, you must do the research before buying. Please visit the the other crew members' blogs, the vendor websites, and any other review sites you might find before buying. I can't guarantee that a product will work for you. You must decide what will fit with your teaching style, and your child(ren)'s learning style(s). I do not judge anything other than the educational value of the products I review. I am not qualified to make judgements as to the safely of any product, and I make no guarantee that the products I review are safe for you, your family, or anyone else. I am simply giving my opinion; only you know what is best for you and your family.

Don't use your blow dryer while you sleep or take a bath. Don't read my reviews in the tub either, and please do not read them when you are asleep, though I do not guarantee that you won't fall asleep reading them!

Copyright 2011 Ramblings from the Crazy House 2